How to create more headspace?

Our busy lives require lots of planning, organising, fixing, considering others and working out what to do next. Our brains are constantly active pondering how to avoid the mistakes we have made in the past, contemplating what we should be doing in the future and very rarely in the present. The ‘present’ is a gift that we very rarely receive.

There is no surprise that mindfulness, meditation and the slow therapeutic mind -body-spirit arts like yoga, tai chi and qi gong have become ever popular. Where we ‘allow’ ourselves a weekly, or daily ‘slot’ in which to try to leave the mind behind, before we go back to thinking, planning, deciding.

What if, rather than being the ‘problem solvers’ we believe we are required to be we could ask a question? Not a question where we are compelled to find the ‘right’ answer, but a request to the universe to reveal opportunities that are available but which we would never have considered. A question that we don’t even try to seek the answer.

Functioning from question allows all possibilities to reveal themselves, then we get the option of choosing what we desire in that moment.

What we believe is possible for us is influenced by what our family, our friends/partners or our work colleagues have defined is right for us which creates a limit around what is truly available. Asking questions allows you to reach beyond the boundaries of your ‘box’. Working with a Wellbeing Coach can also help to liberate you from your self imposed restrictions and expand your life.

If you imagine that for every situation there is a corridor of 100 doors. If we have decided that our desire is behind door 8, we are not available to receive the opportunities that lie behind the other 99 doors;  some of which may be closer to our target yet we had never even considered them.

A simple example – if we decide that we need to live within a 10 minute walk from a Tube station, and no more than 5 stops from our office and our apartment should be 70m2 then anything that doesn’t match that is not in our awareness (as if we were putting our choices into a search engine algorithm). If the ‘perfect’ apartment for us is 12 minutes walk, 6 stops from our office and 65m2 we don’t get to look at that option which may well be worth the small compromise.

The same logic applies to relationships, career, earning potential, car, holiday etc

Some great expansive questions to ask that will leave you open for greater possibilities:

• What will it take……? (…….for me to find an amazing apartment with an easy commute to the office with space for all my ‘stuff’)
• How does it get any better than this? (use when something is going well and also when something is not going well – it often improves the situation)
• What else is possible? (use for everything you desire, when you have had a great day, when you have found the perfect shoes to match your outfit AND when you miss your train, when you are stuck in traffic, after a disagreement with friend/family, when overlooked for promotion…..)
• What will it take for me to create a lean, lithe and lovely body? (When wanting to improve your weight or health)   Or consult a Nutritional Therapist who can support you in transitioning your diet.The key to asking questions is to have no point of view about how it will turn out. You can decide not to choose any option after all.  When you stop functioning from decisions and conclusions it creates space for more to show up.    Having a session of Access Bars, a dynamic energy practice, also creates headspace.

How much headspace can you create by not always having to have the right answer?